When I recently saw this I nearly launched my coffee (which was in my mouth) across the room.
This type of article makes me MORE than mad. It boils my blood. It brings back all those feelings I had as an insecure, trying to find my feet mom. I had the baby that wouldn’t settle, cried a lot and wouldn’t sleep. I TOTALLY would have bought this magazine just for this article…ABSOLUTLY CONVINCED that I (me, the mom) was doing it ALL wrong and giving my baby too much TLC.
What a crock! This is what makes us feel so inadequate and contributes to our many struggles.
I had no other option but to leave a comment on the page:
I feel sorry for anyone who sees this headline (BAD BLURB) and doesn’t have the time to read it (cause she is dealing with a fussy, high need, colic baby) and thinks SHE is the cause and that she is giving it too much TLC. That’s the reality.
Mine was one of MANY comments – here are a few more:
Too much TLC! Whoever heard of such a thing! Such nonsense! You so-called experts are the ones who encourage today’s mothers to carry on with their lives as if they’re still childless. No, no no, please stop this!
TLC as in tender loving care? There’s no way you can ever love someone too much. Why would caring and loving for a helpless little being who’s spent 9 months in your stomach cause problems? I feel sorry for first time mummies who read this nonsense.
The response we all got from the magazine:
Hi moms, thank you all for your comments. We appreciate the feedback as well as the criticism, as it helps us to improve the magazine giving you a product that you can trust. We have carefully read your comments and reviewed the ‘Secrets of a calm baby’ article. We realised that the word TLC in the blurb was used wrongly. It should have read ‘Sleep problems, colic and irritability may simply be the result of too much overstimulation, say the experts.’ If you read the entire article you will see that we are not saying giving your baby too much TLC is bad. The article explains why babies get overstimulated, the signs of overstimulation and how you can prevent it.
Okay, that there made a little more sense than the “bad blurb”. I realized where they were going, and what they were trying to say.
But still – some books, magazines and sleep articles have no idea the damage they can do, even when the intention is good. (I speak from personal experience.)
It’s because of articles like this that I keep blogging. To help moms who, like me, had / have a hard time being a mom.
(I actually googled “how to resign as a mom” at one point).
I am no sleep expert, doctor or therapist.
I am “just a mom” who knows how HARD it can be. I have spent many hours searching for the right answers, feeling very alone and defeated – convinced I will never do a good enough job.
The best thing I learnt on how to deal shitty advice and articles like this came from my own toddler.
USE IT AS A BOOSTER 🙂